Hello lovelies and welcome to another activating protocol.
Today, I'm so excited for the topic.
We are gonna be quantum jumping into a new reality,
our new relationship, our new life.
Now, that might sound science fictiony or woo woo
or something to you.
It doesn't matter what your beliefs are
or knowledge base are around that.
The main thing that I wanna highlight is that we are going
to make a leap into the new version of ourselves
in creating the life in the relationship that we desire.
Okay? So that's in a nutshell, the concepts
for today super exciting
because we are going to remove any limiting things
that contain us and keep us small and keep us stuck
and keep us in the same.
And when we remove that stuff, we could leap
and go into the bigger version of our life,
our grand life's experience
that we might wanna have in this human experience.
I've been calling that the Grand Adventure, right?
So we're gonna have, in a beautiful game of life,
we want to have the best experience at the game of life.
So that's kind of, um, the angle here
to take it more lightly, to take all these things as a grain
of salt, to look at it with more curiosity
and not take everything so seriously,
how we experience ourselves, our partner,
our relationship life, right?
Which sometimes make things too, too dense
and complicated and, and heavy.
And so this conversation is to lighten all those things up.
One, two, to show us how to do that leap, how
to remove the boundaries, the, the restraints
or the confinements that's keeping us small in how we can
stretch into the new version of ourselves and,
and embrace that and jump into that.
And then thirdly, I'm gonna go more practical to
what might be some exercises
and some other ways to deepen into
how do you remove those, those bounds, those things
that might keep you, okay?
Some of the, the, the habits of being ourselves
that might hold us down
because we just keep repeating our thought patterns,
our behaviors, our routines, and all of the things.
And we just keep doing the things,
the same things again and again.
So, I'm gonna give you some specific tools
to help you reprogram change and, and massage and,
and expand out of those things.
If you wanna go a little deeper,
a little bit more practical,
but please, the main idea of this conversation is to,
to hear it with that ear so that you activate
that inner wisdom so that you automatically
shed the things that don't serve you,
and that you access and
Activate and leverage the things that do,
and that make you the bigger version of you
who allow that bigger version of you to shine through
and to, and to be here.
And that higher version
of you creates the higher version of your life.
You see, bam, you're in a different,
in a different dimension, right off the bat,
different reality.
So as soon as we tap into it, we are in a different,
in a different state.
We're in that different life, you see?
So don't get hung up in the logic of this, okay?
Just kind of just listen
to the words they will be activating in and of themselves,
and then I'm gonna give you the practical to,
to really ground it and to help you do, continue
to do the shift and ground it in
so it doesn't just come fleetingly and then goes away.
And then you, you are back to the usual patterns and ways.
Okay? So the first thing that I want to talk about is
how the story of us, ourselves,
our relationship in our life, keep us in the same story.
And, and it keeps the same things happening.
So if we have scripts that play out, if we have stories
or thoughts or beliefs, we
confirm them to ourselves.
It's called a confirmation bias, right?
So if we think these thing, we look for facts
and interactions,
and we show up in a way to confirm that so that
there is no dissonance, there is no gaps in what we think
and how we experience things
and what happens, we create a reality, right?
We confirm it over and over and we keep recreating it.
So the first thing would be to step back and look at that
and identify all the elements of our scripts, our stories,
our narratives, our experience, how we like
to look at things, what doesn't serve us,
what do we continue to create
or how we continue to look at things over
and over in a way that's self-deprecating against us,
undermines us with a sound, victimize us, right?
Focuses on our weaknesses, on our,
the things that don't work.
It keeps us in the same place.
So if you wanna take this to a practical level,
if you wanna do an exercise, you could grab a piece of paper
and grab all those things.
What do you hear yourself saying all the time?
Oh, that's the story of my life. Like, what is that? Right?
So when, when you say things like that,
or this keeps happening to me,
or like, yeah, I'm not surprised that that happened,
or this is usually the way it is, or things like that.
Like what are those things that keep happening?
And that is the story of your life,
if you may, that's one way.
Same concept. You could just write all these things out.
What are the things that keep repeating in your life, right?
The same kind of relationships.
If you're not fully committed with a partner, the same kind
of dating, the same kind of situations with people, things
that work, things in your relationship, obviously
that that's the most obvious one.
That's the one that we work on all the time, right?
But what is the thing that keeps repeating in your
relationship if you really wanna hone in?
So this could be as wide
or as honed in as you'd like, so you could apply it
to your whole life, to everything about you,
or you could just really keep a content
to the relationship very specific if that's
what you're working on, transforming.
So you could do whatever you want with this.
You could do all of that, parts of that, whatever,
whatever makes sense for you, tailor it to your experience.
This is for you. Do your own little program here, okay?
So I'm giving you all the different things.
So you could create what makes sense for you.
So look for what are the things that repeat,
what is the flavor of your arguments?
What are the issues that keep coming up in the
home or with your partner?
What, what are things that you hear yourself saying over
and over to your partner or in your own head, right?
So just grab all those repeating things, all the things,
all the ways in which you create your experience.
That's one way. And then
you're gonna look at this like, are there patterns?
There are, are there themes, there are patterns.
All those things are patterns, but are there themes
to those patterns?
What are, what are the patterns of the patterns, if you may,
it might find a few, there might be a couple
of things in there, or a few things in there
that you're like, oh, I have this thing, this thing
and this thing going, grab all of the things
that we talked about that I just, that I just mentioned.
Flesh it out. Make it a thorough list.
Grab all the things and then see what patterns you see,
what themes you see in there.
So that's, that's one thing that I want you to do.
Also, there are different thought
patterns that you might have.
The way that you construct your thoughts.
Are they projections? Are they victimization things?
Either are they things like this always happens or poor me,
or there might just be flavors in there.
For this particular aspect, I want you to go to the tools,
uh, the tools tab in the membership site,
and look for the tools of distort cognition
or distorted thoughts.
And there is a whole list of the types of
crooked thinking, distorted thoughts that we might have,
distorted cognition that
we filter all our information through.
And you might find patterns in and of itself there, right?
So check that out.
That's one of the very specific things that I wanted
to offer that particular hand
that will really help you hone in
and to what, how you formulate your thoughts.
And so you're gonna grab all the patterns
that you usually have, the way that your mindset works,
and you're gonna additionally identify all the way that you,
all the ways that you think crooked
or the ways that you're dirty in your head
between those two things,
you're gonna see what's going on in your head,
what's renting space there.
So that awareness is just fabulous.
And then I want you to police yourself
and catch yourself doing either the thoughts
and you can correct them as you go.
So follow that handle to help
you more specifically with that.
And two, those mindsets, those patterns in terms of
how you interact, how you, the stories, the scripts,
and catch yourself, right and correct it.
Make it more reality based.
More, more, more intentional, more
graceful, more from a higher perspective, higher road.
Like clean yourself up. Like don't be in the gutters. Okay?
So this is in a nutshell, of course, in the membership
with this, a lot more specific exercises, workbooks to work
through this, if you look at the deep dives is one really
amazing one for all the thinking things.
So check that out. I think it's deep dive three that has
to do with, uh, mental patterns, super helpful with this.
And there's another one that's, um, about, uh,
spring cleaning or something like that's
much deeper reprogramming around fears
and beliefs and all kinds of stuff.
These are wonderful workbooks slash worksheets
to help you actually do do the work.
So you could just grab some notes quick
and then be mindful and just play.
Or you could go all in and be really nerdy
and do those exercises.
Okay? Now, the reason why I'm that, why I am
going at, at this from this angle today first is
because as, as you probably have heard me say
before, if you've been here for a little
while, we are a habit.
Our thoughts, there are routines, everything that we do,
how we choose to groom ourselves, how we choose
to do our life, how we choose to even start our computer
and our work every day.
Everything is a habit.
Every single little thing about it is, is a habit.
We construct everything over and over and over
and over by, by all of the decisions that we make ongoingly.
And so if we could take the higher perspective
and we could just with precision go in
and make different decisions at each place
and turn things around and change the, the routine
and the habit of it, we interrupt those patterns.
And I'm gonna get to that as we get a little deeper how
to do the more specifically in that interruption,
we are accessing different things of ourselves,
different parts and different energies and different angles
and different ways of seeing things.
And then that habit of being ourselves starts crumbling
or deconstructing, and it allows us
to have a different experience
and construct something differently.
You see, right off the bat, we're somewhere else,
different state, different beingness, different situation.
We, from that place, we create anything different, right?
So this quantum jumping idea, it's not like we're going to
through a wormhole to somewhere else, per se.
It's more about, hmm, if we tap into our different parts
of ourselves, into different energy levels of ourselves,
into different levels of consciousness,
into different levels of being into different parts,
we are automatically different.
We're operating from a different place.
You see, it doesn't have to be that complicated.
So that's what we wanna do.
Any, any way that we used to look at things differently.
We're access it different things,
and we are automatically creating things different.
So let's just bring awareness to all of this.
Now, with the habit of being ourselves,
what we wanna make sure that we do is not only have
that awareness and interrupt the pattern,
do something different, make a different choice, show up
with something different, but then also be of servant.
I mentioned this at the last activating protocol.
Be observant of what is the secondary gain.
Like if I do this like this, whether it works for me
or not, I'm still getting something out of it, right?
So I might judge it that this sucks, doesn't work for me,
but you still get something out of it.
And that's what, that's the hook.
That's what keeps us stuck. So what is that thing?
So we're gonna de program that too. Bam.
Now we're really going for it.
So what is, what is a secondary gain?
And how can you meet that in a different way?
Because if that's the little hook that's keeping us there,
we might be doing all this other work,
but this little hook is like, Ooh, this is juicy.
I'm not letting go of this. No matter
how hard you're working over there,
I'm still getting this thing.
So maybe if we figure out what that thing is
that we are getting, and we could get
that in a different way, now we could unhook thing
that we actually are trying to change
that we haven't been able to,
and we can like go into something different, right?
So removing that hook also creates a different state
and also allows us to expand
and automatically puts us in a different place
and in a reality and creating something different.
You know, a little side note here.
So I don't know if this is coming across as too abstract.
Um, again, if anything, if you ever have any questions
as you watch these things
or listen to these things, please feel free to connect
with me and just pick my brain, right?
Like when you sit down, what that mean and
or how do I do that?
Or, or whatever clarification you might need, just ask.
And again, you could bring it
to the individual sessions if you have them with us
or you connect with us in the, in the group
or email through the contact form on the website,
or if you have my email, you have my email
because if any, any notification that you get,
reply to that and I will get it.
Okay? Such as, uh, connect with us in any particular way
that you, that you need so
that you could get answers if something's not clear,
if you're like not sure or whatever it is.
Um, I say things like that when I'm not sure if it's landing
Properly for everybody, right?
So if it's, if you're one of those, you're like, Hmm, what?
It's okay. And I'm here for you.
So I want you to reach out and ask.
But what I was gonna say is
that I had the awareness recently that
a few things happened in my personal life in my family that
I was like, huh, this is kind of cool.
In the past, this thing would've really p**s me off.
There was like a few things in the past few days
that I was like, oh, wow,
I think don't level for me here too.
Like, we've never done the one our work, right?
So I had that aware and stuff like
two or three things at least.
And I was like, huh, in the past,
this thing would've really aggravated me.
It had to do with making family plans
and the plans with my husband about some of the things
and celebrations and things like that in a nutshell, um,
without boring you with my life.
Um, but in the past,
if the plans fall through or if people flicked out
or if people didn't follow through,
and I went through a whole rigamarole,
rearranging my schedule, my workflow, make myself available,
doing all these things,
and then other people didn't follow through, that used
to really, really irk me.
And there were a few instances of that
that happened recently, and I didn't get triggered.
I didn't get annoyed. It barely even registered.
I actually found them. I found those, those changes freeing.
I was like, oh, I have more time to myself.
And I was like, oh, this is really interesting.
I'm not finding that person's flakiness or unresponsiveness
or are, I don't know what words to use,
but you know, like whatever.
Normally I would call those behaviors, I was fine.
And I was like, oh, this is kind of cool.
I'm becoming more flexible in my all age.
So just saying, right?
So the mother, we, we reprogram things.
You might start noticing,
but things that used to really trigger you
or things that you, things that used to be pet peeves
or things that used to hurt you
or things that used to get on your nerves
or what, whatever, like whatever language you wanna use
for these things, they start going away, right?
And I was happy that, that I had that awareness of that.
I was like, oh, okay, that's,
this is still happening for me too.
Yay. Because I know that we're always still growing
and still always evolving and always making changes,
but the more that you get under your belt, they're not
as obvious as you go, right?
So when, when I find new things
that come up, I'm like, oh, okay, yay.
Still, it's still the work's, still doing the work.
So just a little side note.
Um, okay, so let's see.
Anything else about that that will serve you?
I'm just trying to think of who's,
who's watching and what you guys might need.
Uh, let's see. Anything else about this?
Okay, so I actually have one more thing that I wanna offer
with this, and that is expectations, right?
So that kind of goes, uh,
They kind of flows from the examples that, the example
that I was just giving and being mindful
of the expectations that we have of ourselves, of people,
of life, of situations, of things.
And are those expectations realistic?
Are those expectations reasonable?
Uh, those expectations, honoring
of ourselves, of other people.
And it expectation from both sides, the good and the bad.
Like we have an expectation that people might fail us,
therefore we do all these things so we don't get hurt
or disappointing when they do, right?
So it plays that on cancer ways.
And so catching that as part of the list that you make,
uh, when I was saying before about the stories
and the scripts and the narratives, just the things
that might run, run space in your head
and all the different thoughts and stuff, this is another,
another, another version of that, the expectations.
So just see what, what are some of the things, the filters
that you have that are kind of given in the,
the color, how you experience things and how,
and how you create things
and see if you could start backing out of those.
Like no longer subscribe to these things.
No, no, no more being n for this stuff, right?
So that's one, that's a, that's the way
of just capturing all these things
and then deprogramming those things
and interrupting the patterns that usually make you,
because we are gonna dis deconstruct those things.
And it would allow the real you not all this junk
that we create to come out and play.
It will create a different state.
So you could have a different experience, new life, new you.
Yay. Okay, now we're gonna go a little bit deeper.
The next one is more of like shadowy stuff.
Stuff that's, that's not as obvious to us.
So we could go do a little excavating
and a cool angle for this.
This is like shadow work.
So a good thing to do with this is to look at
what are the things that aggravate me?
What are the things that get on my nerves?
What are the things that that trigger me
or that frustrate me
or that my, my pet peeves that my partner does?
Let's focus on our partner. I mean, you,
you could ex extend it to all the things, family members,
siblings, friends, coworkers, whatever,
children if you want to.
But then it, it might get a little convoluted.
Our partner pretty much is the personal,
embodies all of the things.
And, and if we focus on that one relationship,
we could do pretty much all of the work.
And just through that relationship, we,
we could get pretty much everything covered.
And so what are some of the things
that your partner might do that get you?
And what we wanna do with this one is look at,
okay, how is that thing
in me also?
'cause we may be like, oh, have nothing like that,
But I hate that in people.
I hate that about my partner
or that my partner does that thing.
But, but I'm wondering if that's in you
and you are so against it that it's repressed,
hidden at some level
and it's percolating it's ugly head by
poking it outta your partner, right?
So you hate this thing in your partner so much
because maybe you're not owning that.
You have some of that in you. No, we are not perfect.
We all have the duality
of like all the things, whatever this thing is.
We, we have both sides of that in all of us.
And the more that we own all of the pieces, both sides
of the things, the more that we become whole, the more
that we be truly ourselves.
And then we make choices in which way we wanna show up.
But if we completely deny it, it's still there
and it comes out in the form of healing it in somebody else.
And then we increase friction in all this funky stuff.
And so this is list number two.
If you're doing the, the, the nerdy work,
and this has to do with looking for those things.
Find no, find the notice.
And if you're not doing the nerdy way,
just observing, right?
Just when, when things come up, what is happening,
what is the thing, and how, how do I have that?
Also, it might not show up exactly the same way,
so it's hard to recognize.
But see if you could say, okay,
what is the flavor of the thing that my partner does
that really aggravates me?
Is part of that
or a different angle on that,
or a different flavor of that thing also in me?
So it doesn't have to be exactly the same thing,
but it might be hard to see, but some version of that.
Do I have that? And I judge it
and I've learned to judge it for some reason,
either from society or from growing up, whatever.
And now I'm so against this thing that I've created friction
and nonsense in my life.
So if you, if you could unearth some of those.
So think about how, how does show up?
What can you own for yourself?
See if you could identify what about those you don't like?
Like why are you so rejecting of those things?
Because it might be a
little cleanup that you could do there.
And then it's easy to just fully own yourself,
and you don't have to choose to use those parts, right?
But at least know that you have them.
And then you're whole, just, just in
that awareness, you become a whole.
And you own those things without judgment,
without criticism, without putting it down, without shaming.
But just, just own, that's how you free yourself.
And then you just how you wanna show up.
That's totally up to you.
The other part that's really cool about this is that
I don't know if you've ever had this experience
that people give you a compliment and you're like, really?
Wow. You, you see that in me?
Or you might know some of your gifts and your skills
and your strengths, and you might not fully use
them or, or you don't take them to the next level.
These are also shadowy things.
So shadows doesn't mean that it's fair.
Shadow means that stuff is hidden.
So when people give you a compliment
and you can't accept it, they see something in you
that you're denying for yourself.
And that's a gift. And so we're not just gonna look
for the bad stuff, air quotes, bad stuff.
So the things that people are knowing us with that we need
to own in ourselves, but we're also gonna look
for the things that people see as
the good stuff that we don't see.
So those are the regular shadows and,
and the, the ones that are more gift,
like they're called golden shadows.
And so we can own all of the pieces, all the, the things
that we don't consider so good, the things that are gifts,
and see if we could sit in all the yummy
and become more and more integrated.
So in that second list, grab as many things
that you could think of that, that,
or remember that people have told you or that you notice.
You might wanna keep a mental finding list as you observe,
you go about observing in the world.
But what I want you to do is to
pull out specific characteristics
and see if you could embody them, embrace them, feel them.
If one of, if if, let's see if you find
that it is really negative
and you really don't want to, you really don't want that
to be part of who you are.
They just own it and be, okay, that's a part of me
that I really don't love, but okay, just own it.
It's okay. But you don't have to show up with it.
You don't have to use it. But, but own it.
And then what I want to do with the good ones, air quote,
the good ones, the gold ones, the gifts, embrace it more
and more and more.
Become that more and more and more. That's hopeful.
You really are. That's the essence of you
that you might be denying what a waste, right?
So that's part two. Now, so the first one was all the,
all the thought things that we talked about.
This one is all the shadow things that we talk about,
that we just talked about.
So again, the theme with all of these things is
to remove the bounds that keep us small stuck,
remove all those limitations
and all of those way that we restrict ourselves so
that we could shine more
and more, elevate our frequency, become more whole,
become more who we really are.
And in those different states, we're in a different state,
we're in a different reality,
and we could create very differently
than what we usually do.
Okay? So that's what we're trying to do.
Now, number three, this is one of my favorites.
And I, I wrote a few blog posts on this over time,
and I'm trying to think how far back they go.
Maybe a couple of years. So if you want to go to the website
and just go to the blog tab
and do a search for new identity ego patterns.
Um, I'm trying to think
what else might be good keywords new you, I don't know if
that one will fully capture the essence of this,
but just play with some keywords on there
and see what blocks come up.
And then the blocks will have links in them
to all the related blocks,
and they will give you a more thorough
feel for some of these ideas.
So you could take it in different angles if you'd like.
You could keep doing more work, getting more nerdy.
But the concept is that
we want to bypass the hard work with all this stuff,
and we want to do less hard work with all this stuff by
giving ourselves a new identity.
So let me explain what I mean by all this.
Most of the way that we show up is filtered through
who we think we are, right?
How we look at ourselves.
And so, and that's the habit of being ourselves, right?
Everything gets filtered through that so that we do all the,
all of the things over and over that reinforces
that opinion or that view.
But we have a choice. We could say, who do I wanna be?
What's my alter ego? Who am I meant to be?
And I'm not being, because I have all this junk covering my,
my beautiful essence, who, who who really resonates inside
as a person that I really am, that I, that I came
to be here on this life experience.
Connect with that. And you could experiment.
You don't have to get this right?
There's no such thing as getting this right?
You might be like, is I really, is that really me?
Is that, is that right? There's no such thing, right?
So if something calls to you, run with that,
and we could run all kinds of experiments on this.
You could keep trying out different things
and different versions of you, right?
We, we are really multidimensional and multifaceted
and really rich.
We really, really don't allow ourselves to be
the magnificent beings that we are.
So whatever identity you choose is totally cool
because you could use another one tomorrow
and another one tomorrow, and
another one tomorrow and another one.
By that I mean the next day and the next day.
And you could do, you could do whatever you want.
You could create whatever you want.
So there's no right or wrong.
You could experimenting, exploring and being curious
and playing with and having fun with
and doing whatever you want.
And so the idea of this is to help us shake things up
so we are not stuck in this pattern that we created.
And you could expand that and become, again, more
and more whole different aspects of you coming to play.
And, and with each one of those choices,
even if it's something minute, I'm a piano player,
as a piano player, how would my life look different?
I will practice playing the piano. I have a piano
Sitting in my library that I haven't touched once.
So personal experience right there, right?
Personal, a little personal detail.
But if I, part of my identity was I'm a piano player.
I might get up earlier every morning
and play the piano for half an hour.
I might take piano classes, I might get a piano tuned again
and actually practice it and play it.
I might not use it to just have flowers
and pretty things on it.
I might actually use it as a piano, not a shelf.
You see, right off the bat,
how different would my life look if like that one thought,
one aspect of me would automatically rearrange a few things
in my life and my life will already look different.
You see? So that's the idea here.
See how pretty, I don't know why
that came into mind, that's interesting.
So I'm gonna have to play with, sit with that
and explore all that for myself.
But any identity, like anything, I'm an athlete.
I'm a very fit person. I'm a wealthy person.
I'm a compassionate person. I'm an empath.
I'm, I don't know, whatever. What does that mean?
If I own these parts of me
and if I own additional parts, if,
and I'm showing up at those parts, how is my life different?
How am I interacting differently?
Usually we have very limited voice of looking at ourselves
and we show up from that little place that doesn't serve us
or our partner or our life.
But if we look up and we embrace the higher aspects of us
and we show up from those places,
that's where the beautiful stuff happens.
So play with this, right? What are the identities?
And it doesn't have to be full blown identity,
just like little things, right?
I'm this kind of person, I'm that kind of person, I'm this,
I'm that, I'm the other thing.
And see what that means.
What would flow from that description?
What, what else would you integrate into your life
because of that particular nuance?
Don't go editing a zillion million pieces to this and, and,
and create a very complicated life.
Easy, right?
So you could explore and play and be easy about this.
Don't make it complicated.
You're gonna shoot yourself on the foot.
So explore, if a lot of things are coming to mind right now,
and I'm saying this because I'm tapping into that, right?
I'm picking that up. So if a lot of things are coming
to mind, that's perfectly fine.
That's beautiful. And so pick one or two things
and run with that until it feels complete
or until you don't wanna do it anymore, that's totally cool.
Then pick something else, right?
Or you, or you or you go back and forth.
That's totally fine. Being flexible
essentially will create, you know, allows for richness
and a fuller experience so you don't have to be married
to the thing like this prescription
and running through that prescription that's,
that actually limits us it.
So it's okay to have a more expanded
and more open way of doing things
and trying different things out, okay?
There might be judgment around that, right?
So like, that's why I'm saying that.
So it's okay to be flexible with this. Okay?
So that was part three. This, that's the third angle
that I wanted to offer for today.
So we have, again, quick recap,
we have all the different ways of thinking.
I give three different ways there to play with.
Then we have all the shadow stuff.
We have the shadow, shadow, the shadow, the gold shadows.
And then we have this last piece of the identity,
doing the identities differently,
bringing in different aspects of identity.
So you could flow from a different place,
could create a little alter ego there and play with that.
And, and listen,
and you could gamify this, you could go
to town with any of these things.
This one with the alter ego
particularly, you could be really fun.
You could play with your partner
and say, you know, okay, who am I this month
or this week or today?
And you could do that with each other.
And you could play that out and see what happens, right?
How interesting. Think about that.
Like, okay, so if I'm this character or this persona,
or this identity, or this version of me today
and you are this one, how will we interact differently?
What would, what would we be doing differently? Wow.
What a concept. And that's what life really is, except
that we get married to the one particular identity
that we hooked onto.
And that's what we are playing out every day.
But we don't have to, we have a choice, right?
So gamify this, I challenge you, I encourage you,
I commend you, I, I commend you, I whatever the word is
to, to embrace this, play with this and just have fun.
Talk about opening things up,
talk about creating new things, right?
Gorgeous. Okay.
Now that's part two of today
or the, those three little parts are, were part one.
Now the second approach to this is five little tools.
Okay? You already mentioned one when we were doing the,
the thoughts segment, and that was
to look at the distorted recognitions list.
So that stays as one of the tools. Number two.
And all of these you're gonna find in the tool tab.
So they're either one sheet
or a handful of pages of like little worksheets
or little instructions that you could play with
and that would give you shifts in different ways
of tackling these things.
Earlier. Also, I mentioned the deep dives in
workbooks and worksheets there.
That's something separate, you could
dig in there a little deeper.
Um, but for this one, so we have the sort of cognition one,
there's nine to 12 specific ways that we think
labels to our thoughts that
when we think those ways we are really undermining
ourselves, that we are really
shooting ourselves on the foot.
So, so if you could identify them
and that she tells you to, like how to identify them
and the flavor of the thoughts, and,
and then you, you could clean them up.
And if you, that's, if that's the only thing you do,
if you work on cleaning up your distorted thoughts,
you distorted thinking patterns,
you are already way ahead of the game.
Okay? But that's, so
that's one tool that you could use for this.
Number two is there's another sheet.
There's called Change your Brain, change Your Life.
And this comes from the book by that title, by Dr.
Amen from the Amen Clinic in the city.
And he has some other locations, um, super useful concepts.
Our brains have different ways of operating
and some parts of our brain, if we, if we have having,
if we are struggling in life, there might be some parts
of our brains that are more active than others, um,
overly active and some parts that are be ly active so
that we are not activating enough.
So we don't have function, enough function to, to serve us.
And so this hand that helps you,
there's a checklist in there.
It helps you identify what parts
of your brain are not operating optimally, right?
How cool. And then it gives you a prescription with how
to resolve those areas.
What kind of supplements to take, what kind of conversations
to have, what kind of, what kind of things to say
and how do you, how do you think and how do you speak
and what your partner can do
to support you if you have this kind of brain
or that kind of brain really, really thorough.
And, and it's easy. Take a look.
Do the assessment, check out what kind of brain you have,
what parts of your brain might need a little support.
And, and then go through those, those prescriptions there.
Like, should I take this supplement?
Should I have this kind of speech?
Should I do this kind
of self-care or that kind of self-care?
What kind of food? Depends on what part of the brain it is.
It gives you different things that
would target that part of the brain.
Like what might be the most helpful.
So check it out and have your own back.
Number three, there is, uh,
an anger, anger quiz.
Some of you have anger patterns as part
of your story and your situation.
And if you take the quiz, it would tell you what kind
of anger you have, kind of like what's driving your,
your anger, how your anger shows up.
Sometimes we have anger issues
and we don't even know they're internalized, right?
So it's different versions of this.
Usually when we think about people having an anger,
anger problem, we think of people flipping tables and chairs
and yelling at people and pulling out bats when people
are driving or whatever, right?
Like we think of their reactive versions of this.
There's all kinds of flavors.
And so if, if there's something that doesn't sit right
with you or that you're not sure
what's up, check that one out.
There might be something there for you.
And then depending on what you come up
with, we could play with that.
And you could use that just to another,
another angle in something else to play with.
Then there is a codependency quiz.
We worked on this concept a lot last month.
Feel free to review last month's activating protocol.
And the handout helps you identify if you love too much,
which is a translation too.
Being codependent, being too much of a caretaker.
That's definition. And if you
find a strong pattern there, we could play with that
and we could reprogram that, right?
So that's another thing to check out.
Like we are observing, identifying all of the different ways
that we show up with habits
and patterns so that we have that awareness
and we could remove the things that contain us so
that we could show up with a higher version of ourselves.
And then the last one,
and I say the the funness for last is
part of the theme that we're gonna be playing
with this month more is this free pattern.
And this interrupting the patterns they have is
of being ourselves so that we create this openness
to tap into higher versions
and higher potentials of ourselves.
And I created a very easy way of doing that through
30 day challenges.
How fun, right?
So this is a very practical, fun, cute way
of interrupting the patterns
that you might have in your life
because in that interruption,
you're automatically accessing different things.
So the work doesn't have to be hard,
it doesn't have to be so clinical.
It could be in all these different ways
that I'm shown here, you see?
So always keep that in mind.
We don't have to work hard at things.
We could also have fun and still do the work.
So this challenge list also the hand that is in the,
in the tools menu, in the, uh, yes, in the juice tab.
And when you look at the sheet, it's a sheet of
all challenges, ideas.
So you go see what kind of flavor talks to you.
Is it more physical wellness things?
Is it more mental things?
Is it more practical things?
Is it digital things? I don't know.
There's all kinds of flavors in there.
So just check it out, see, see what talks to you,
and then narrow it down to a specific
challenge that you wanna play.
Play with not eating sugar for 30 days.
It could be as simple as that.
You see not having any sweets for 30 days.
So you, you might be thinking like, what, like what,
what would, what is that even doing?
But, so it is something very practical, very concrete
that you could measure whether you're doing it or not.
And it could be so something so simple,
but the idea of doing that thing
or not doing that thing
for 30 days really does every juggling
of things in in the brain that you'll see.
I'm sure, I'm sure you've done challenges in the past
and you, and you could probably relate to what I'm saying.
Um, or if you've done detoxes of any sort, like that kind
of idea, you'll see the things that get activated
that the reactions that you have to not being able
to do things or to having to do things.
The excuses you, you see, you see all kinds
of thought patterns, how, how you sabotage yourself,
the habits that get in the way or, or how your body feels
after doing or not doing something very, very interesting.
I love this concepts of playing with this.
It could be something so simple as that little habit,
but you'll see yourself doing all the work, right?
So play with that.
And, um, we covered three main
areas of how we're gonna identify the habit
of being ourselves, how we play ourselves, our our, the role
of who we are over and over
and how, how we're gonna interrupt those patterns.
And we're gonna have the awareness
and start owning fully more who we are
and making different choices
and cleaning up anything that's funky so
that we release the restrictions
and we could show up more, different state, different level,
different consciousness.
And then I gave you five very specific tools
that we have access to, that you have access to on the,
in the membership site that you could actually work
through very specifically if you wanna be more nerdy about
it, more concrete, tangible, um,
and work through the things more specifically.
Then I also again mentioned the deep dive, the one
that does all of the, all of the emotional,
not the emotional, all of the mindset reprogramming,
that one's jam packed with activities like this
that will help you in the spring cleaning one.
So those two deep dives, one of them might be a masterclass.
Um, but so either just check out the page
with the deep dives in the masterclasses
and something we'll call to you that will support this.
Okay? So always, of course, welcome to all of the content.
Um, I just wanted to give you some, some pathways
that you can follow those crumbs if they serve you.
Okay? So we have three specific ways that you could play
by writing out or by observing
and try a specific tools that you could apply to this.
And then two recordings, master class slash deep dive.
Oh, and also I mentioned last month activating
protocol on codependence.
So that's also very helpful. Okay, my love.
So tons of things to use to play with if, if you like,
and you could do as much
or as slow as you like, as usual, don't
overdo the things you could do.
All of the awarenesses.
What I don't want you to do is to implement
too many things to change at once.
You could definitely have awareness, you could,
you could look after for things,
but I don't want you to say, okay, oh, I don't, I have this,
this new identity, this new identity, this new identity
or my new identity does these things.
And, and you overload your life
with stuff we don't wanna overdo.
Okay? It's always, always, always watch out for that.
You could have all the awareness you want,
keep looking at all the things, but then narrow it down
to like a couple of concrete things
that you're gonna do ongoingly to continue
to support on the reprogramming and make the changes.
And again, just that shift with all of these things,
you are already in a different state and that in
and of itself will start doing the different energy,
the different reality, inviting the different things
and creating something different.
And that's how we want to jump.
Okay, my love, thank you so much for watching.
Thank you so much for being here, for playing with me.
Let's create the most amazing grand experience,
this amazing life and relationship.
I look forward to seeing you at the next one. Bye.