Hello, lovely.
Welcome to another activating protocol.
And today we are going to focus on how
to elevate our energy, how to show up with our better,
highest self so that we could properly show up to our life
and to our relationship.
So I am going to walk you
through the cultivate higher levels of self
to enrich your relationship.
And that's the pyramid
that shows you the the different levels.
I'm gonna walk you through that. That's in the tool tab.
I'm also going to put a link at the bottom of this video so
that you could reference this as you're watching this.
And so you could have handy as well
to keep working with it as you go.
Then I'm going to walk you through
the relationship verbs list in how to use that
to properly nourish your relationship so
that it flourishes in this April.
And I'm gonna show you,
I'm gonna describe the concepts of up shifting.
So you could operate from your highest level of self,
from your highest self.
And with the nourishing verbs list, I am going to show you
how to use that list.
There's different ways that you could use it so
that you could gamify it and you could have fun
and you could properly nourish, nourish
and enrich your relationship.
Okay, so the highest levels of self,
what does that even mean?
So there's a few levels of self that we operate from.
And depending on what level we're operating from,
that's the filter that we use to experience what's going on
around us, how we interpret interactions, how we
choose to show up, how we choose to respond,
how we set up our day, how we react to things
or not, or respond to them.
Just kind of how we experience things
and how we show up depending on the level that we are at
and also what we're able to create, what we're able
to end up manifesting, if you may,
or just have, having to create
with whatever energy we are putting out, right?
So if we are showing up with yucky energy and we are grumpy
and we are fidgety
and we are prickly,
then we are obviously not gonna be receptive to
to things in the same way
that if we were in a different state
and we might be reactive, we might be frustrated,
we might be short impatient, you see?
And so we create something funky.
And this goes much deeper than that too.
'cause our energy that way
that energy impacts our environment is much more subtle than
we are even aware of.
What I just mentioned is very observable,
but the way that we show up in the energy
that we are embodying actually creates our environment
and our life in much more subtle ways than we are
even we could even imagine.
We create with our thoughts and our energy, right?
Our thoughts, our feelings, our actions,
they all carry different energy.
And that energy creates our life, our environment,
our physical space.
Literally, I'm gonna spare you the quantum
physics behind all of that.
As I've mentioned in other conversations when I talk about
this, feel free to look that up for yourself.
And if you have questions, feel free to ask me for sources
or to explain it more.
But for now, that's just a little background
so you understand what I'm talking about,
what I'm talking about creating
with the different levels of self.
Okay? So the first level,
that was just like a quick little setup.
I'm gonna walk you through the different levels now.
So the first level is the victim or lower, lower self level.
From this level, we experience life in our relationship
as it happens to me.
We are victims. This is the lowest level from this place.
We are driven by survival, right?
We have a victim mentality. Things happen to us.
We are symptomatic. We have this, this ease disease
struggles, issues, we're ego led, we have patterns
and programs running the show.
And so from that place, this is when we noticed
that children are acting out.
Our relationship is not going well.
Like everything's friction, everything's a fight.
There's conflicts, things break in our house.
All the things don't work. Things happen at work.
Our technology doesn't work. Just life is just not easy.
We can't find parking spots when we're going somewhere.
We can't find where to park, period.
Nevermind something close to the front door.
If that's what we like, we get flat tires,
like car breaks down, you, you get my my drift, right?
I just, things don't work.
We are out of alignment with life.
We're just fighting and we are in friction.
We're swimming at river.
And so the key here to mitigate this is to
focus on shifting our state as quickly as possible.
As soon as we recognize like, oh, I'm having the worst day,
nothing's working, right,
or things that what's going on,
today's a terrible day kind of thing.
If we are having those kind of thoughts,
then we have to do something about that.
And the main thing to do is to
get back into our ourself, right?
Take the deep breaths, do the little self-care,
do the little meditation, do the little things so
that you can start shifting immediately.
Those like, those are like our immediate things,
but also start putting things in place to shift
More, sadly, not just immediately.
And then you fall again. And like you constantly have
to be picking yourself up,
but so that you kind of plant the flag and,
and you set yourself up to move,
be able to move up to the next level.
And so what that means is
that you would do things like a better structure,
better routines, better, better scheduling, better habits,
more self care, right?
So you put all of the basic things in place
so you don't operate from this funky place, okay?
And a lot of us hang out here a lot
of the time, it's just unfortunate.
But if we could have this awareness,
we put the things in place,
then we could more easily step up.
Okay? The next one is the motivational self.
Now this one is about,
or feeling like life happens by me.
This is when we grind, we have to make everything happen.
We are in charge of everything
we gotta do all of the things.
We can't count on anybody, we gotta make it all happen.
We twist everything. We, we force everything.
We push, we grind, right? This is motivation driven.
It's the door, the planner, you make things happen.
It's the fixer, the ego led fear, patterns and programs.
Again, who, who could relate to this, right?
We do this as well a lot also from this level,
our job is to incorporate more flexibility.
So notice we create the foundation,
this nice solid structure
that then we could be flexible within.
Doesn't mean you throw the, this
structure out the window, okay?
This is a misconception.
So you keep your structure, you keep your routines,
you keep your habits, your, your, your flow,
your schedule, all the things.
But then you, you, you're flexible with that as you go.
It doesn't have to be so rigid, so, so, so mechanical,
so structured.
If you're doing better, then you could,
so you could be more flexible with it, more flowy.
You see, the structure is very necessary.
When we are chaotic and everything's running our life
and we're overwhelmed and nothing's working
and everything's a mess, it serves us purpose,
but we're, when we're doing better,
that could be a little stifling.
And it's okay to shift some things
and you can be more flexible with it,
and you go skip them some things
because you already have a strong foundation
and you have more resilience, okay?
And so with this one is incorporating more flexibility,
more self-love practices, more mindfulness practices,
more fun, more letting go,
putting more support in place, right?
So, so life could be a little bit more flow.
We a little bit more easy, more effortless, okay?
Then we move to the next level.
The the next one is the inspirational self level.
And this is life happens through me
or for me, right?
It's really pretty when we hang out here.
This one is inspiration driven.
It's being, it's feeling, it's sensing, it's expanding,
it's allowing, it's receiving, it's heart led
and love filled.
Now as I'm coming to the distinction in a second, so
what this means is that we create more spaciousness, right?
We empty more, more simplicity, more silence,
more like embodying
and silence practice more beauty, more nature.
We plan that more.
We plan that more with intention as opposed
to like a rigid plan, just more intentionality around being
and flowing with things.
So there is an escalation in a positive way, right?
A buildup from a lot of structure
to a little less structure, to just more flowy.
We still have a container, we're never rid
of the container, right?
But we could start being more flowy, think with things
as we have specific practices
and specific things in place that
nourish us, inspire us,
and help us flow from a different place.
Now, I don't wanna give the impression that these things
are completely linear up,
like they completely build on each other.
These are fluid, right?
So you could be in total inspiration moment, in one moment
and completely dips as something happens
and you get triggered and, and you, and you fall, right?
And you could be back to victim level.
And the more that your experience
of being at the highest levels,
and there's one more, the less likely you are to, to crash
so easily and to dip so easily, right?
So you'll be more and more resilient
and you're in a higher state.
So that little things don't get you. That's beautiful.
That's what we shoot for. But it still happens.
We're still human. We still have our triggers,
we still have our patterns, we still have our things, right?
So they get less and less and less as we go,
but we are not immune.
And so we could still kind of dip.
And so the things that keep in mind is keep the container,
keep the routines, keep all the things,
but you could play with that and you could do less
and create more spaciousness as you go up.
But then if you start dipping, you already have it in place,
you just kind of flip the switch again and put and,
and go back to, to the more structured
version of doing things.
You see, okay, that's the distinction that I wanted to make.
And then the last level is the higher self.
And this is life happens as me.
Now, this is what's gorgeous. This requires no work.
This is just being, that means that I show up somewhere
and my just, my presence in
and of itself creates stuff, creates a shift.
Like for example, for me, and I don't wanna sound cocky.
Please, please don't take it that way.
And hopefully this resonates for you if we work,
if you work with us privately.
But as soon as show, I show up to a call,
I feel things shift, right?
Just the mere presence
and the language automatically suits the things.
That's the whole point of therapy. That's, that's,
that's part of being a therapist
and part of our gift, right?
And so that's what we wanna be in that place more
frequently in all areas of life.
Not just when we show up to session with clients,
but you know, like we, like, we show up somewhere and,
and we just see a ripple effect, if you may, right?
Just the way that people respond to us, the things
that happen, how things manifest, how, how people respond,
how things just happen.
Good things happen, right?
The more that we are in this place,
like this is where the miracles happen.
This is where everything's synchronicity.
This is the place of oneness where one with all
and really intentionally about it,
we could tell we are intentionally in that place
and we feel all the benefits of it.
So the description for the, for this one is oneness driven
love, consciousness, unity, consciousness, essence,
presence, limitless, infinite.
And the, the intention here is
to be become
one, be in oneness.
And we achieve this by continuing to work through,
through the, through the, through the different levels.
And the more that we practice the things
and the more that we practice being at the different levels,
the more that we hang on at the each level,
the highest level that we can master for the longer
that we hang on, hang on there.
The more that we are preparing ourselves
to be more in this state,
and the more that we can when we touch it, the more
that we can hang out here.
The, the practice allows us to
be at this state more consistently, more frequently,
just more ongoingly.
And again, once we get up there, it doesn't mean
that we're immune to everything
that we could still dip, right?
But we might not dip all the way to the bottom.
We still can, I promise we still have those days,
but you, you're less likely, right?
You just kind of function at, at the different exhalation
that, that rather than this one.
Like it's, it's harder
to do this if you're living like this.
It's very challenging, right? That's life is very chaotic.
So most likely you're alate here
or you're ex accelerating in the middle
or you're xi accelerating at the top.
And again, it, it, you know, you can have deeper, deeper,
uh, bigger dips.
It can happen. But the more
that you practice being at higher levels of consciousness,
the easier it is to stay up there.
Okay? So that's the, the higher levels
of consciousness pyramid
that we wanna hang on in and embrace.
And let's see, did I wanna make any other points? Yes.
So two things.
This is how you, how do you use it more in the practical?
So identify for yourself what state you are in,
what level you're in currently.
And so it could be a really bad day
and you're at the lowest level and it's totally fine.
No judgment. There's never any judgment, right?
That's just the, just where we are at the moment.
That's totally fine. And there's always
something that we could do about it.
And sometimes we don't even feel
like doing anything about it.
And that's okay too. Just honor yourself.
Just don't dwell there.
'cause then you create,
you keep creating messes, it doesn't feel very good.
So what's the point? Um,
but you identify your general average state
that you're operating in, where you are a accelerating,
and then put the things in place
that you need for that level.
So refer back to the hand.
I'm not gonna repeat 'em all again.
So depending on what level you're in, that's what you do.
Now you might be feeling okay,
but you still don't have the foundation.
So then I will implore you to make the foundation so
that if you happen to dip,
you have something in place already to catch you.
Yay, right? We always wanna be preemptive and proactive.
So regardless, then we are gonna create the foundation.
You can put all the things in place,
but depending on what level you're in, you're gonna play
with it so that it serves you where you're at in the moment.
Then on a daily basis, and I dare say moment to moment basis
or chunks of time for the day basis, like in the morning,
afternoon, evening, you cannot check
for yourself, where am I at?
So every day in the morning, when you first
wake up, where am I at today?
So what kind of, you know,
which level am I gonna operate from?
And as the day progresses, then you adjust accordingly.
And you wanna make sure
that you're using this as a guideline, that you don't want
to over marry yourself to this
ladder, to this pyramid.
As with, with any tool, okay?
We don't wanna create, we don't wanna
overly structure things.
'cause then it's rigid
and it creates more tension, it creates more, more grind.
We use the guidelines, we use the protocols,
we put the things in place, and from
that place we activate the yumminess.
That's the whole point of these videos that I'm doing,
this recordings for this series this year.
The activating protocols.
I am showing you how to use all the tools
that we have in a way that just touches and inspires and,
and and activates your internal resources,
your gifts, your talents, your yumminess, your good essence,
your all the good stuff.
I take the, the word good out of that.
And from that place, we want to
then use the tools, use the guidelines to catch ourselves,
to have our own back.
And we build from there, we create from there,
we manifest from there, we live from there.
We enjoy from there. Okey doke. So that's it.
This is the pyramid. The point of that is so
that we get ourselves into the best state
that we can muster for the day.
And then with the best energy that we could put in,
we choose to show up to our relationship,
into our life and to all of the things.
Now, of course, let's talk about relationship.
What does this mean for our relationship?
So for this conversation, I want
to review the relationship first list, like I said earlier.
And we're gonna discuss how
to nourish your relationship so we could flourish.
Okay? So the, the checklist,
this first checklist is gonna help us invest in a fine way,
nourish in a fine way, in a very practical manner.
So we're gonna get ourselves into good state, good energy,
and then we're gonna play with this checklist.
Okay? That's the idea. So a few things,
and again, I'm gonna put the link to this also in the,
under the video, under the recording here, so that you
have easy access to it.
And again, you could find it in the tools tab also.
Okay? So with this hand that looks like
is the whole alphabet.
And under each letter there's a bunch of relationship verbs
to use to nourish your relationship.
So for example, on the A, we have accept, acknowledge,
admire, adore allure, apologize, appreciate,
ask attune, automate.
You see, so each of the letters has a bunch
of different verbs in them.
Some of 'em have a little less, some, some,
some letters are, were harder to do, some have a bunch just
because they're easier and more, more fun verbs.
Um, we're able to show up for certain letters.
Then you're gonna check out this list
and you're gonna make a choice with your partner.
You're gonna decide how do you wanna use this list?
You're gonna say there's a few options, okay?
So I'm gonna read you the options, and then you're gonna
choose one.
You could go through the alphabet in order.
So you could start with A
and do all the A verbs, then B,
all the B verse then C then all the C birds, right?
Get my, you get my, my gist. That's one way to do it.
The other way is to go through the alphabet,
but instead of doing all of the verses on
each letter, you only do one.
So you do a, one of the verses B, one
of the verse C, one of the verse, right?
And you keep moving through the whole alphabet
and then you, you, you keep the
rotation going, you keep coming back around.
The letters that you finish earlier,
you skip the next time around and
You keep going until all of the verbs
and all of the letters are done.
So one way is to do the alphabet
in order each letter, all the verbs,
and the next letter, all the verbs.
The second way is you do one letter, one verb, one letter,
one verb, and you keep moving.
The third way is you do any letter
and you pick a verb from that letter,
or you could do any letter
and you could do all of the verbs for that letter.
Like maybe there's a letter that's like, ooh,
that letter is really yummy, it has all the best verbs.
Um, now you could do them in order within the letter
or you could pick one, any one in there.
So you could do this any way you like, you see? Okay.
And then the last one is
that you could do just anything, no particular order.
You just grab the list, see
what verbs calls to you, and you check it off.
So there's no particular order
and you just keep going until the whole list is done, right?
So whatever, whatever you guys prefer and whatever you like.
And if you're doing it in one particular way
and then later you wanna change the way and it's
because it feels too structured
or you don't like what's coming up
after whatever you did today, that's fine, right?
It there. You don't need to be too structured.
You could do it any way you like.
The goal is to have all
of the letters checked off at the end of the day.
So you gonna cross off all the le the verbs as you go,
and then you're can ch check off
the letter when it's completed.
And then the goal is to have all
of the verbs, all of the letters down.
So you could play with this any way you like,
you can gamify it to your horse content.
If you come up with a better way than I just mentioned,
by all means, do it your way.
Have fun. So the other thing is how
to implement this, right?
So first you can it on the same page, like,
yeah, this is something fun that we could do.
Fabulous. Then you can decide what approach you're gonna do.
So you could, like I said, you pick a choice
and then as you go, you could decide
to change it if you want to.
And then the key thing is
to decide if you're gonna do one verb per week
or one verb per day, okay?
And what happens with that is
that you're gonna choose the verb together.
And if you choose to do the daily one, then at the beginning
of the week, you're gonna say on Sunday,
let's say, or during the week.
And you're gonna say, okay, so what are the verbs
that we're gonna use next week?
And decide which verb you're using each day.
And you get that lined up so that
you don't have to necessarily choose
to get on the same page every day.
Might be harder to do if, if you have a busy schedule
and a busy life, right?
So you line this up for the day, you put the verse
that you chose at the top of your calendar day for the day
or something, whatever, whatever.
Uh, or a little list on the refrigerator, I don't know,
whatever little system to remind you what verb it is
for each day of the week.
And that's it.
And if it's only one bar for the week, that's it.
Then it's easier. You just do that one bar.
It might get a little monotonous, just a little side note.
So it's better to do one daily, just plan it ahead
of time and then you play with that.
Then at the end of each day, you're gonna say to yourself,
okay, how did we use this verb today?
And you're gonna share with each other
what you notice your partner did, right?
And you're gonna say, oh, I noticed how you did this
and this and this and this, and the other thing
that are affiliated or associated with the verb.
So the key is to use the verb you're gonna give love.
And that in that form, in
that love ve form to your partner.
So for example, with the letter A, we say accept.
So how many times were you accepting, right?
How were you accepting and what things were you accepting?
So hopefully your partner could tell you at the end
of the day, oh, you were accepting on this,
you were accepting on that, you
were accepting on the other thing.
And guys, a little side note, none
of this is against yourself, right?
Never forget that nothing's ever at your expense.
So when you're accepting it doesn't mean
that you're going against yourself.
Alright? So just keep that in mind that as
that example came up, that that, um,
no ones came up to share.
So a little side note on that, you could accept something,
you could agree with something,
you could acknowledge something, right?
So this, these are all different
words actually that are coming up here.
Acknowledge same thing, but you could accept that
that's something for your
partner, that's true for your partner.
It doesn't have to be true for you.
You see, you could accept
that your partner's gonna eat steak,
but you could eat fish, right?
So you could figure out how
to play with these things, make it fun.
So you, at the end of the day, you're gonna say, okay,
I noticed that you were accepting in all of this ways.
So whatever the verve is, I notice, I notice that this is
how you applied the verb today.
And then your partner's gonna do the same for you.
I noticed that this is how you applied the verb
today, right?
And then you can show appreciation for each other
for, for having done those things.
So I appreciate that you use the verb this way today
and you're gonna list all of the verbs, all
of the ways that the verb was used.
So then you are going to remind each other
of the next, the, for the next day get on the same page
that you're gonna do that and you're gonna enjoy
and you're gonna keep going with this little ritual,
this little practice.
Until you finish all of the things
or until you choose that, you know what we're done
with this list, that's fine too.
But give it a good try, right? Do do a nice amount.
And if you do the whole thing, I wanna hear about it.
I wanna know how it went and you get a gold star.
Um, but the more that you do
challenge yourself, make it a challenge.
And the more you get out of it, okay, we only stop it.
If it becomes monotonous or it loses its luster,
or you come up with something else, another practice
to replace it, then that's okay.
But don't just stop doing it
for the heck just because, right?
Like, don't just give up. Like the
More that we invest in
things, the more we get out of them.
Okay? My loves that is it for that one too. Yay. Perfect.
So that's it.
We are going to up level ourselves, make sure
that we have a foundation, work with that according to
what we need for each level
that we might be feeling, building that resilience.
And then we're gonna play with this nourishing
verbs with our partner.
So our relationship could nourish more
and more as we go this April as everything is blooming
and flourishing around us.
Thank you so much for watching
and I will see you at the next one.
Bye.